Author: phoneboy

It was a little over 24 hours since filing for divorce and a motion for an immediate restraining order. My credit cards were cancelled. My bank accounts were drained. My credit was frozen. My house was no longer a safe place to be. I didn’t have local friends or family I could turn to for…

As a young kid in the 1970s, I remember the very first “adult” album I put on the record player: Pink Floyd’s Dark Side of the Moon. I liked Money, so I often put on Side 2, where this track was first. Incidentally, that album along with Wish You Were Here was also on the…

While being married to someone for nearly 25 years, there wasn’t much I did that was truly just for myself. Everything I did, everything I bought, even for myself, demanded I consider everyone else in the house. As a result, I often sublimated my own needs for the family. Now that I am separated from…

It’s funny: when you’re going through massive changes, it seems like a good time to make even more changes. In this case, I’m doing something I probably should have done a long time ago: separating my work life from my personal life. As someone who works from home and is currently living in a single…

I moved to Gig Harbor in 2007 when the soon-to-be ex-wife thought we’d have better schools for the kids. It was certainly a step up from where we were living in Port Orchard at the time. One of the the things I enjoyed from my time there is the annual football game between the two…

Something I’ve been doing as a way to improve the environment I am in is to burn candles. It’s a small thing I am doing for myself that, in the end, doesn’t incur a ton of cost. That said, the financial reality being what it is, I’m trying to get my money’s worth.

We all need to be loved. I have no idea how I managed to stay married for as long as I did given that…

As I’m trying to close a lengthy chapter in my life, namely a marriage that lasted nearly 25 years, it seems like a good time to start over on my personal blog. I definitely won’t be writing much about my marriage until the ink dries on the divorce decree—wouldn’t be prudent, as George Bush Sr.…

It’s important that if you’re going to make any change in your life, you have a why. Today, upon completing my 47th lap around the sun, I’ll tell you mine. Today is the 10th anniversary of my father passing away, who coincidentally shared a birthday with me. It is also the 7th anniversary of my…

For the last week and a half, I’ve been doing my daily jog(s) in these: Specifically, they are Cloud Barefoot Sandals from Xero Shoes. They are fairly thin-soled sandals that are about as close as you want to be to jogging barefoot. Several of you asked me: why? Honestly, there’s someone I know from a…